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  • Writer's picturePaul Condello

Whether They Know Or Not

Does it matter if someone says something mean about a friend, either online or in-person, if that friend won't find out it was them?

Isn't it still cruel and doesn't it still reflect a problem with that person's way of seeing the value of other people?

If someone tells an acquaintance something mean about a friend, but they don’t think their friend will find out who said it, does it really matter? Absolutely, and the reasons why are key to both a clear sense of Christian teachings and a healthy public. If a person is comfortable hurting someone just because they don’t think that person will be able to trace their comment or action back to them, that speaks to a problem with their heart.


A person who bases what they say or do mainly on how it will affect them acts in a genuinely self-centered way, one that doesn’t recognize the inherent value of the lives of others. People who think and act this way only care when there are negative repercussions for them. This way of thinking and acting goes against Christian teachings about loving other people and it is not healthy for the rest of the public either because it runs contrary to the public good.


Now, is it okay to say something harmful about a friend to someone else, even if that friend will neither find out who said it nor hear what was said at all? It still isn’t okay because it is wrong either way. Isn't it still cruel and doesn't it still reflect a problem with that person's way of seeing the value of other people?


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4 comentários


tashfea01
27 de nov. de 2021

Talking behind ones back is one of the main reasons why people lose faith in others. And I strongly believe that we should not create in breach of our relationships, giving in to our whims

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paulalpha25
paulalpha25
30 de out. de 2021

Thanks Paul. This is one of the issues challenging relationships today. If you care about someone as a friend or even relative, there's no reason you should say something mean about them whether they are aware or not.


It's really a bad thing we should desist from.

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Jasmine Hewitt
Jasmine Hewitt
04 de out. de 2021

Gossip is bad, no matter what. Great reminder in this post!

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Muhammad Aliyu
Muhammad Aliyu
29 de set. de 2021

When you talk bad about someone to a friend without his knowledge will bring about hatred and lack of trust between that person and the other and probably diminish the image of that same person. I recommend abstinence from such as teachings warn about such. In the Muslim scripture, it is forbidden to do such a thing.

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