Guest Post: Former Pro Baseball Player And Christian Author Writes About Singleness

Bob Wheatley tells us about "embracing your season of singleness" and "walking with God."

Singleness, I realized, gave me a unique kind of focus and freedom for that.

You Are Not Behind: Embracing Your Season of Singleness

By Bob Wheatley

8/18/25

Single Christians,

You are not behind. You are not behind your friends who just got engaged, nor are you behind your own expectations. If you find yourself in a season of singleness right now, you are not delayed—you are divinely positioned.

For years, I believed that my singleness was a problem to fix. I assumed that once I met that special someone my life would finally begin. But over time, God greatly challenged that view. It was a passage from Scripture that I used to avoid—1 Corinthians 7—that began to stir something in me. In that New Testament letter, the apostle Paul writes, “To the unmarried... it is good for them to remain single... to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 7:8, 35 ESV)

It is good for us to remain in our singleness? We are actually advantaged in our single season? How could anyone say such a thing?

At first, I dismissed Paul’s words completely. After all, he was Paul—super saint and super Christian—but I was just your average Joe. Even still, I could not move past his encouragement to singles: I wish you could remain in this season.

And with that, I decided to shift my thinking. I stopped waiting for a wife and started walking with God. Singleness, I realized, gave me a unique kind of focus and freedom for that. I didn’t have to divide my time or energy—I could seek the Lord fully. It became a space where my trust in God was deepened and my character was refined. This season of singleness also gave me flexibility—to serve, to lead, to build. I’ve been able to follow God’s lead without hesitation, unbound by obligations that would come with a marriage.

That’s not to say that being single is easy. Not at all! But the intimacy I’ve found with Jesus has made it worth it. When I stopped idolizing marriage and sought Christ first, a sense of purpose, strength, and contentment soon followed. Not because the longing disappeared—I do still hope to be married one day—but because my heart finally found its home.

I pray that you find Home as well.

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P.S. Bob is the #1 Bestselling Author of Single-Minded: Finding Purpose & Strength in Your Season of Singleness. Click HERE to download his entire audiobook, completely free. We hope you enjoy it!

Visit Bob’s website at www.bobwheatley.com

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